Oct 18, 2019
How do successful people get things done? A lot of it has to do
with setting and achieving goals. A topic that isn’t always as easy
as it sounds. Today’s episode is about setting, reaching and
exceeding brainy goals. We all have goals, and are all optimistic
that we’ll achieve them “someday,” but the truth is if you don’t
set your goals up correctly, there is a good chance life will move
too fast, and you won’t achieve what you’re capable of. (I’ve
linked to episodes on time discounting and optimism bias that help
explain why our brains are fine with “someday”.)
Everywhere you look, you’ll find advice on goal setting and tips
and tools to help you achieve what you want. Success can be as
simple as taking (and adhering to) the following three steps to set
and achieve your brainy goals. All you have to do is 1) define your
goals limiting them to no more than three. Then 2) break those
large goals into small steps that will get you there, and 3) say NO
to everything else, so you can focus on what really matters. Sounds
Not so fast. Our brains are wired to rebel against this simple
process. (Especially, step three.) Saying NO is the hardest part,
and where most humans get hung up. We want to do a little of this
and a little of that…multitask…not limit ourselves. You’ve likely
heard some of these tips before, but I’m adding the extra (and very
important) layer of explaining WHY your brain doesn’t want to
adhere to the plan to help you fight it when it rebels against you.
This show will explain the way our brains react to these steps, and
if you want someone to walk through the steps with you the Brainy
Mindset Course (cart opens next week!) can do that.
- [04:23] We all have goals, but if we don't set them up
correctly, there's a good chance we won't achieve them.
- [04:48] The three tips for setting and achieving brainy goals
are: 1) define your goals, 2) break it down into smaller steps, and
3) say no to everything else.
- [05:22] Saying no to everything else is the hardest one for
humans to do.
- [05:37] In a few weeks, I'm going to have author Nir Eyal on
the show to talk about his new book Indistractable.
- [05:51] One of my favorite insights from his book is that you
can’t call something a distraction unless you know what it is
distracting you FROM.
- [06:07] The opposite of distraction is traction.
- [07:26] When it comes to goals, you need to limit them. You
cannot have 85 goals or even 10 or 5, because you can’t achieve
them. It’s too much for your brain to handle.
- [08:53] To limit your goals, you first need to list out every
goal you would like to accomplish in the next 5, 10, or 50 years.
(Use the free worksheet in from the Master Your Mindset
mini-course...link below.) These are the things that you want done
when they read them at your eulogy.
- [09:09] List out everything you want to do and then think about
how they might combine together and into an overarching goal.
- [09:40] Now that everything's listed, pick three goals.
- [10:51] Setting these goals can take some time but don't get
caught in perfectionism or analysis paralysis. These are mindset
- [11:13] Keeping you stuck is a tactic used by your brain to
- [11:42] Your inclination is to have the top three be the most
important, but still let goals 4-15 take up mental energy and be
out in the world as things you are interested in. But they
- [12:16] Items 4-15 are a distraction that you should avoid at
- [13:02] It's important to declare and OWN those top goals so
everyone in your life knows what is most important and is on
- [19:17] Setting three goals and then sticking to them is really
- [19:50] Once you know what the top three are, the next step is
to break each big goal into small steps to get there.
- [20:54] When it comes to the big overarching goal all of these
other things are little steps to get there.
- [21:55] Break the big lifetime goal into sub goals for the
- [22:25] With tiny habits, you break your big goal into the
smallest possible component, something that would be impossible to
say no to.
- [24:06] You can also use habit stacking to accomplish the small
- [24:46] Now that you have your goals, how tiny can you make the
steps to reaching them?
- [25:06] Every goal is reached in lots of small steps. It’s a
sum of all the effort to get there, not the end result, and if you
don’t plan for them, they won’t get done and you won’t challenge
the status quo your brain loves and you won’t reach your
- [26:04] The subconscious brain is the filter that determines
what your conscious gets to focus on. You need to be incredibly
particular about what it sees all day to help guide the
- [29:21] Use reminders on your phone – set an alarm that repeats
your mantra back to you or that you read. Put sticky notes on your
bathroom mirror, or paint a picture that reminds you of the goal.
(Master Your Mindset free mini-course has tips and a worksheet to
help you with this)
- [30:11] Determine what three things are important to you and
shout them from the rooftops and put every single egg in their
baskets. That is how you set, achieve, and exceed brainy
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